Formal events intimidate people because the etiquette feels like a secret code. It isn't. A few basics cover almost any situation, and once you've got them you can relax and actually enjoy it.
Before you go
- Decode the dress code — black tie, cocktail, smart casual all mean specific things. If unsure, ask the host or aim slightly smarter.
- RSVP and honour it. Don't bring uninvited plus-ones.
- Arrive on time — for a seated dinner or ceremony, a few minutes early.
At the event
- Greet the host and thank them.
- Table manners: napkin on lap, start when others do, work cutlery outside-in.
- Go easy on the free bar — the person who overdoes it is the one everyone remembers.
- Make conversation with those around you; a couple of open questions is plenty.
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When in doubt, mirror
Not sure which fork or when to start? Watch the host or the person next to you and follow their lead. Nobody expects perfection — good manners are mostly attentiveness.
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Follow up
For work or wedding events, a short thank-you message to the host the next day is a classy touch that gets remembered.