How to Apologize Properly
A real apology repairs trust. A bad one makes things worse. Here's the difference — and the exact words to use.
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Build a clean, non-defensive apology you can edit and send.
Anyone who needs to say sorry properly — after an argument, a mistake at work, or letting someone down — and wants to get the wording right.
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How it works
Tell it what happened and who it's for. It drafts a short apology that names the specific thing, avoids 'but…', and offers a concrete change — then you edit and send.
Example
Example: "I'm sorry I snapped at you last night — you didn't deserve that. You were right that I've been distracted, and I'm going to put my phone away at dinner. I value us."
A good apology helps, but words don't undo the thing — follow through on what you promise. This drafts wording, not the repair itself.
Frequently asked questions
What makes an apology land?
Name the specific thing, take responsibility without excuses (no 'but'), acknowledge the impact, and say what you'll do differently. Vague 'sorry you feel that way' apologies backfire.
Should I apologise by text or in person?
For anything serious, in person or by voice — text flattens tone. A text can open the door, but do the real apology face to face.