Living together tests a relationship in ways dating never does. The couples who thrive aren't the ones who avoid the practical conversations — they're the ones who have them before the lease is signed, not during the first argument about dishes.

Money

  • How will you split rent and bills — 50/50, or proportional to income?
  • Joint account for shared costs, or keep everything separate?
  • What are each person's expectations around saving and spending?

The household

  • How will chores be divided — and how will you handle it when one person slacks?
  • What does each of you need in terms of tidiness and personal space?
  • How much alone time does each of you need to stay sane?

The bigger picture

  • Guests, family visits, and how much notice you each want.
  • What happens financially if it doesn't work out?
  • Where is this relationship heading — is moving in a step toward something, or convenience?
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Make it a real conversation

Set aside an evening for it, and use the Difficult-Conversation Planner if it feels heavy. Awkward now beats resentful later.